I am so stupid, dumb, a waste of space. Why do I keep doing this? Man, I am so tired, sick and exhausted. I am so fat, ugly, whats with those rolls? I am such a loser, ohh man why does this always happen to me. All I do is attract the wrong people, I will never find someone good.
How many times have you said some of these things or perhaps even worse? Imagine saying these things to your best friend, chances are you wouldn’t be friends for too long.
Why do we say it? Well, that is a good question, why for many reasons. I know for myself it was part believing what others have told me for so long, and part low esteem. I honestly didn’t like myself so much, so I constantly beat myself up, insulted myself and really talked down to myself. I was a mess, and very unhappy, and really it was no wonder I wasn’t so happy. Who could be when they were constantly being told they were fat, ugly and where crappy.
Somewhere along with my life, I woke up, seriously I did. I woke up a mess, at my rock bottom and said enough, this sucks and life have to be better than this. I don’t want to live like this, nor can I go on. I radically changed everything, who I was friends with, my lifestyle, my beliefs. I set out on a journey to learn about my life and everything in between. There have been ups downs, and really everything in between. Today I am still learning, I feel every day is an adventure, and also a blessing. I have really rediscovered me, and love what I have found. I am so passionate about it, it became my tagline for my website.
Find Your Voice
So back to you. Can you relate to what I was saying, do you find yourself in this? My first advice is to seek some sort of support, a coach such as myself, a support group, a good friend. A coach can take you into deep work to figure out who’s the voice that is telling you that you are stupid etc, and remove that tape. Share, we get power by sharing, share who you are, and what is your story.
Do a search in the library for a good book. Wander the shelves until you are drawn to a certain book. Books can be so healing.
This is what I want you to do: Go grab yourself a pen and a piece of paper. Write all the things you like about yourself. Do a post on Facebook asking friends to live a word of encouragement with the first letter of their name. Then write them all out and hang it where you can always see it. I did this and it's quite powerful,
For today, watch what you say after I am, start with something beautiful and positive. I am beautiful, I am fun, I am brilliant, I am funny, I am well, I am full of energy. We can so bring life to ourselves and we can also squash ourselves as well. Let's bring life to ourselves.
Can you relate? I would love to hear from you.
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